Confident people believe in themselves. They don’t pretend to be perfect or have all the answers, but they do trust in themselves that they have the ability to figure it out. Because they are assured in their own capabilities, they also don’t feel the need to boast or puff up. Confident people are the real deal.
Confident people have simply learned to accept themselves, and share their unique nature with other people without feeling self-conscious. Thankfully, we can learn self-confidence if we feel uncomfortable or unhappy with ourselves, but in order to get to that point, we must first understand the behaviors that confident people avoid.
HERE ARE 10 THINGS CONFIDENT PEOPLE AVOID DOING:
1. CONFIDENT PEOPLE DON’T COMPARE.
Confident people know that comparison is the thief of happiness and so they don’t go there. They understand that comparison is a quick way to feeling incompetent, less than and inadequate.
2. CONFIDENT PEOPLE DON’T BLAME OTHER PEOPLE OR SITUATIONS FOR WHAT HAPPENS TO THEM IN LIFE.
They take full ownership of everything that happens to them. Confident people don’t blame the barista at the coffee shop for running late to work, or the fact that they don’t have enough money this month to pay rent. They take full responsibility for their actions, and realize that they are the conductor of their lives. They might not have the ability to control everything that happens to them in life, but they can choose to respond in a way that benefits their life and not wallow in self-pity or play the blame game.
3. THEY DON”T MAKE EXCUSES.
People who are confident rarely make excuses for their lack of knowledge or their inability to get something done. They take full responsibility for what they do or don’t do and what they know or don’t know. Confident people know that they are not perfect people and they don’t expect perfection in themselves or in others. When stuff happens, they take responsibility, they admit their mistakes and they simply see to be better and learn from it.
4. THEY DON’T ASK OTHER PEOPLE FOR APPROVAL.
Confident people don’t need permission from others in order to make a decision; they feel totally comfortable and worthy of making choices on their own without needing to ask others first. They will listen to other people’s opinions and consider them, but they don’t put those opinions above their own in the decision-making process. They simply live their lives in congruence with their hearts, and feel that going to other people for acceptance will only lead them astray.
5. THEY DON’T SPEND TIME CRITICIZING OR JUDGING OTHERS.
Confident people are sure about who they are. They are at peace with their abilities as well as their shortcomings. In other words, they have healthy self-esteem. Because they feel okay with themselves on the inside, they don’t feel the need to spend time criticizing or judging others.
One of the easiest ways to tell if someone is not confident in themselves is to notice that they are constantly criticizing or judging others. Confident people don’t feel the need to do this.
6. THEY DON’T SECOND-GUESS THEMSELVES.
Confident people don’t mull over their thoughts endlessly after making a decision; they simply watch life unfold and stand behind their choice. Even if it didn’t work out according to plan, confident people still don’t second-guess themselves, because they know that they made a certain decision for a reason. They have faith in themselves to take the proper steps in life to reach their goals and achieve success.
7. They people don’t listen to negative feedback of those that don’t matter to them.
Confident people know that there are opinions that matter and opinions that don’t. They understand that the world is full of criticizers, fear mongers and haters. Confident people don’t get caught up in the negative chatter of others. They know who is worth listening to and who is not. Unless someone is in a position where they truly care to help someone grow and be their very best, the cheap opinions of others is meaningless to a confident person.
Similarly, confident people don’t need constant reassurance from others. They are mostly self-reliant in this way. They hold their course, remaining steadfast and committed to what they are doing without relying on others to keep them on track.
8. CONFIDENT PEOPLE DON’T TAKE THE EASY ROAD.
Confident people do one thing every day that scares them. They have trained themselves to embrace fear and they know that fear is simply false evidence appearing real. They understand that fear is the resistance factor that actually strengthens their character and prepares them for their future.
9. CONFIDENT PEOPLE DON’T TRY TO IMPRESS OTHERS.
They could care less how much money they have, what brand of clothing they buy, or what kind of car they drive. They know that possessions don’t define a person, and feel confident in themselves because of their character. They realize that someone’s true essence comes from their soul, and don’t waste time impressing other people with things they don’t even care to own. They only want to impress themselves, and work on having the best possible relationship with themselves.
10. CCONFIDENT PEOPLE DON’T PEOPLE-PLEASE.
It is not in the culture of confident people to be men-pleasers; hence they don’t try to please everyone they come across because they know that it is just impossible to please everyone in this life. They give more of their time to establishing qualitative relationships and not just relationships of large numbers.
Likewise, confident people do not have a need for permission from others to do the things they are called to do. They take necessary action.